How dare you presume to tell a woman that she’s required to carry a child that for whatever reason, she doesn’t want? Furthermore, if you insist on making that decision for her, are you willing to foot the bill to make sure that child grows up happy and healthy? Are you willing to ensure that the baby with a severe genetic disorder gets proper care and assistance? Will you adopt the kid that simply wasn’t wanted and pay for the therapy a rape survivor will need, buy groceries for the family that can’t afford them?
And now this shit in Virginia. State sanctioned rape. Requiring doctors to perform a transvaginal ultrasound before an abortion. I truly can not fathom what kind of human being would think that was a good idea. It’s made even worse by the fact that these doctors know that the transvaginal ultrasound is rather unnecessary, causing even more emotional scars that women will have to bear. How sick do you have to be to decide that you’re going to force medical professionals to perform such acts? This is a Criminal Minds episode just waiting to happen. How long do you think it will take for a sexual sadist, a twisted sociopath to move to Virginia and set up shop, or possibly even worse, a good doctor to have a psychotic break because she or he can’t endure doing that to a woman? Way too much potential for disaster there, guys.
I’ve never had an abortion, and even though I’ve always been pro-choice, I never thought I’d be a girl who would get one. I was wrong. I was seeing a guy for a few weeks and ended up sleeping with him a couple of times. Long story short, the sex sucked and he was a complete tool. Yeah girl, you know just what I mean. Well once he figured out I didn’t want to see him anymore he called me up and said that sooner or later I’d be back with him because he’s poked holes in the condoms we had used. Apparently I was real classy and he wanted to hang on to me for a while. Cut through the absolute longest, most anxiety riddled two weeks of my entire freaking life, and guess who’s late. Yep. I wigged out. I work part time, make less than a thousand bucks a month, and I can’t find anything else to supplement that, believe me, I’ve tried.
I felt sick, I felt violated. I spent the next week until payday in a kind of shock, not really feeling anything but this icy numbness and I was glad for that numbness. I was actually surprised with myself when I decided that if I were indeed pregnant, I’d get an abortion. I couldn’t support a child, I wasn’t emotionally ready to be a parent, I had taken the steps to prevent that, and then almost fell victim to some deviant’s trap. Tell me I would have been wrong to go into a Planned Parenthood clinic and had a simple procedure to terminate a cluster of cells, I dare you. I’m lucky though, the test came back negative and I’d stressed myself out so much that I’d delayed my period. That cluster of cells would have started life in poverty with an emotionally distant mother and I highly doubt I’d ever be able to do much better if I had a child holding me back during the early years of my career. I won’t do that to a child. There are too many disadvantaged children out there already, too many single mothers who just can’t get a leg up in the world.
You can say I should have been on The Pill, but that means going to a doctor and when you only work part time you don’t get insurance to pay for such luxuries.
You can say I should have abstained. Actually, no you can shut up with that because this isn’t the Victorian Era anymore.
And now we’re to the old tried and true, adoption. Oh if only this were a perfect world, then that might be a possibility. Think about how many American children are sitting in foster care right now. Think about how many people go outside this country to adopt kids. Now think about those who sign up years in advance looking for that perfect child to adopt with each and every trait just as they want. And you still want women who’ve had abortions to be ashamed of themselves because there are women out there who can’t have kids. When the number of people who want to adopt exceeds the number of children who need parents then try your answer again.
Bottom line, stop trying to prevent women from getting abortions, it does more harm than good.